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It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and afuneral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into “God works in mysterious ways”, but it’s the same core thing with a culty religious spin.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

YMMW if they’re as fake as you say they are (religion is a hell of a drug), but if it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs. If you don’t go, it’ll be the other way around because Christians unfortunately eork like that. And they like holding grudges. A funeral is (unfortunately) one of the few “chances” to reconcile. Shame someone needs to quite literally die for them to be this open to reconcoliation.

Speaking like an ex-christian raised in the tradition: this could be your opportunity to get things to smooth over. They’re bound be as open to reconciliation as possible. Just don’t force it. Keep your distance and honour your dad’s wishes. Forcing things will have the opposite effect of seeming disingenuous. No action other than showing up necessary.

The amount of families reconciled at christian funerals I’ve witnessed is in the low 20’s.

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and afuneral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into “God works in mysterious ways”, but it’s the same core thing with a culty religious spin.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

YMMW if they’re as fake as you say they are (religion is a hell of a drug), but if it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs. If you don’t go, it’ll be the other way around because Christians unfortunately eork like that. And they like holding grudges. A funeral is (unfortunately) one of the few “chances” to reconcile. Shame someone needs to quite literally die for them to be this open to reconcoliation.

Speaking like an ex-christian raised in the tradition: this could be your opportunity to get things to smooth things over. They’re bound be as open to reconciliation as possible. Just don’t force it. Keep your distance and honour your dad’s wishes. Forcing things will have the opposite effect of seeming disingenuous. No action other than showing up necessary.

The amount of families reconciled at christian funerals I’ve witnessed, is in the low 20’s.

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and afuneral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into “God works in mysterious ways”, but it’s the same core thing with a culty religious spin.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

YMMW if they’re as fake as you say they are (religion is a hell of a drug), but if it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs. If you don’t go, it’ll be the other way around because Christians unfortunately eork like that. And they like holding grudges. A funeral is (unfortunately) one of the few “chances” to reconcile. Shame someone needs to quite literally die for them to be this open to reconcoliation.

Speaking like an ex-christian raised in the tradition: this could be your opportunity to get things to smooth things over. They’re bound be as open to reconciliation as possible. Just don’t force it. Keep your distance and honour your dad’s wishes. Forcing things will have the opposite effect of seeming disingenuous. No action other than showing up necessary.

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and afuneral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into “God works in mysterious ways”, but it’s the same core thing with a culty religious spin.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

YMMW if they’re as fake as you say they are (religion is a hell of a drug), but if it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs. If you don’t go, it’ll be the other way around because Christians unfortunately eork like that. And they like holding grudges. A funeral is (unfortunately) one of the few “chances” to reconcile. Shame someone needs to quite literally die for them to be this open to reconcoliation.

Speaking like an ex-christian raised in the tradition: this could be your oppoetunity to smooth things over. They’re bound be as open to reconciliation as possible. Just don’t force it. Keep your distance, but honour your dad’s wishes.

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and afuneral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into “God works in mysterious ways”, but it’s the same core thing with a culty religious spin.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

YMMW if they’re as fake as you say they are (religion is a hell of a drug), but if it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs. If you don’t go, it’ll be the other way around because Christians unfortunately eork like that. And they like holding grudges. A funeral is (unfortunately) one of the few “chances” to reconcile. Shame someone needs to quite literally die for them to be this open to reconcoliation.

Speaking like an ex-christian raised in the tradition: this could be your oppoetunity to smooth things over. They’re bound be as open to reconciliation as possible. Just don’t force it. Keep your distance, but honour your dad’s wishes.

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and afuneral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into “God works in mysterious ways”, but it’s the same core thing with a culty religious spin.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

YMMW if they’re as fake as you say they are (religion is a hell of a drug), but if it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs. If you don’t go, it’ll be the other way around because Christians unfortunately ork like that. And they like holding grudges. A funeral is (unfortunately) one of the few “chances” to reconcile. Shame someone in the immediate family usually needs to quite literally die for them to be this open to reconcoliation.

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and a funeral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into a “God works in mysterious ways” type thing, but it’s same exact thing.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

If it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs, simple as. If you don’t go, they’ll use it like one more bad thing about you to hold a grudge for because Christians unfortunately work like that, and funerals especially are important religious and life events for the entire family. In their eyes, you’re required to go even if he denounced you and forbid you to come (since you’re his child), let alone if he felt the need to ask.

A funeral is a time for reconciliation and self-retrospection in Catholicism, and most other denominations follow suit. To be honest, it’s one of the things they got right in my eyes.

(Speaking as an ex-catholic)

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and a funeral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into a “God works in mysterious ways” type thing, but it’s same exact thing.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

If it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs, simple as. If you don’t go, they’ll use it like one more bad thing about you to hold a grudge for because Christians unfortunately work like that, and funerals especially are important religious and life events for the entire family. In their eyes, you’re required to go even if he denounced you and forbid you to come, let alone if he felt the need to ask. A funeral is a time for reconciliation and retrospection in Catholicism, and most other denominations follow suit. To be honest, it’s one of the things they got right in my eyes.

(Speaking as an ex-catholic)

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and a funeral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into a “God works in mysterious ways” type thing, but it’s same exact thing.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

If it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs, simple as. If you don’t go, they’ll use it like one more bad thing about you to hold a grudge for because Christians unfortunately work like that, and funerals especially are important religious and life events for the entire family. In their eyes, you’re required to go even if he denounced you and forbid you to come, let alone if he felt the need to ask. A funeral is a time for reconciliation and retrospection in Catholicism, and most other denominations follow suit.

(Speaking as an ex-catholic)

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and a funeral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into a “God works in mysterious ways” type thing, but it’s same exact thing.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

If it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs, simple as. If you don’t go, they’ll use it like one more bad thing about you to hold a grudge for because Christians unfortunately work like that, and funerals especially are important religious and life events for the entire family. In their eyes, you’re required to go even if he denounced you and forbid you to come, let alone if he felt the need to ask.

(Speaking as an ex-catholic)

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and a funeral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into “God works in mysterious ways”, which is the same exact thing.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

If it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs, simple as. If you don’t go, they’ll use it like one more bad thing about you to hold a grudge for because Christians unfortunately work like that, and funerals especially are important religious and life events for the entire family. In their eyes, you’re required to go even if he denounced you and forbid you to come, let alone if he felt the need to ask.

(Speaking as an ex-christian)

It’s also an opportunity to reconcile. Not that OP seems to want that, nor would the aunts most likely want that, but sometimes such events just make things… Click.

Having okay relations with relatives is important, and afuneral is an opportunity for things to improve. That’s just pure sociology. You aunts will spin it into “God works in mysterious ways”, but it’s the same core thing with a culty religious spin.

So my take is: bite your teeth and attend the funeral. It’s a one-time investment of a few hours. Odds are the aunts won’t want to make issues. Maybe it fixes things. Your fathed did ask nicely, after all. And it’d be nice to honour his request. Any semi-okay relatives would respect that, religious or otherwise.

If it doesn’t go the ideal way, you did your part and they failed theirs, simple as. If you don’t go, they’ll use it like one more bad thing about you to hold a grudge for because Christians unfortunately ork like that.